Jan 4, 2020 filed under Living Virtue.

Woman building spiritual core

St. Paul likened a virtuous life to an athletic event: “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith (2 Tim 4:7).”

Virtue muscles
He’s right that growing a bicep has a lot in common with growing a virtue. Virtues are habits of doing the right thing. And the only way to build a habit is to, well, do something over and over until it causes joy rather than resistance. Until it feels wrong to do it the old way.

A few weeks ago, I let my exercise routine slip. I’m no Venus Williams, but I do a little aerobics, take long walks, and ride my bike. And I’m a huge fan of stretching every day. With no exercise, I started to feel flabby and weak and, worst of all, felt my motivation for exercise slipping away with my muscle tone. But after returning to aerobics class, I felt joyful and optimistic.

Then I took a nap :)

I was worn out, but it only took one “yes” to get back on track!

Our virtue muscles can weaken in the same way. If we’ve let our spiritual discipline slip a bit (most of us have been there!), and with it, our motivation to exert ourselves in patience, forgiveness, and generosity, we need to get back into the race.

There are 7 aspects of physical training that we can use to get holier: strength, nutrition, flexibility, speed, agility, injury prevention, and balance. Let’s see how they can jump-start our spiritual life for the New Year.

In “virtue training,” strength of will to do the right thing makes everything else possible. If we haven’t made up our minds that we want to be happier, freer, and more joyful (and that it’s worth the sacrifice to lose habits that don’t serve us anymore), then we’ll never get off the starting blocks. As the coach said, “Ya gotta wanna!”

Ways to start:
The Sacrament of Confession is the ultimate de-tox. Telling Jesus the ways we’ve distanced ourselves from Him and asking for his healing opens our souls to the grace He is waiting to give us.

Pray. Tell God about your successes and failures and then listen to Him.

Read about those who are strong in virtue—the saints.

Hang out with people who think growing in holiness is important. Support each other and pray for each other. Start a book group. Plan a regular phone call or meet for coffee.

These things help us build the “core strength” of will that moves us to want friendship with God more than anything else.

What a swimmer eats and drinks can make the difference between making the team or not. We can train as hard as anyone else, but if what we eat makes us lethargic and flabby, we can kiss the gold medal goodbye.

Same with the pursuit of virtue—it’s good to notice what makes our will strong to do good, and what makes our mind drift off track, and adjust our “diet” of conversations, videos, books, thoughts, and actions accordingly.

If we write down the shows and movies we’ve watched, books we’ve read, and look honestly at our conversations and thoughts—and bring that list to prayer, God will move our hearts to let go of what leads us from him. Approaching this “nutrition inventory” fearlessly and prayerfully yields a great payoff of freedom from unhelpful habits.

The more intentional we are about what we put into our minds and hearts, the more spontaneous and joyful we’ll be because our words and actions will more likely be good.

A gymnast knows that stretching is slightly painful if you’re doing it right. Flexibility in virtue means “stretching” your desires to match what is right, even if it’s not always comfortable.

A priest told me recently that a good way to minimize self-will is to ask a family member or co-worker how they think something should be done, and then to do it their way—especially when I think my way is the “right” way.

Did I say stretching is slightly painful sometimes?

An old proverb goes, “He who gives quickly gives twice.” Doing the right thing without hesitating is a sign of mastery in virtue.

I have a habit of putting off doing generous things because whatever I’m offering seems inadequate, and then I don’t do it. But then I think of the Christmas my neighbor arrived at our door with a loaf of Italian bread from the bakery. I was so touched, it still warms my heart, years later.

It turns out it is the thought that counts.

A tennis player has to be ready for a ball coming from any direction at varying speeds at any moment. We never know what life will bring next, so we need to be familiar with the virtues in our “toolbox” and develop a habit of putting the right ones to use in each circumstance. Click here for a cheat-sheet on what they are and how to put them into practice.

A hurdler with strong and flexible muscles is less prone to injury. Our souls will be less prone to sin if we’ve had good virtue-training, and if we do sin, the “injury” is likely to be less serious.

I used to cheat on my taxes in a tiny business I ran decades ago. I figured if I could get away with it, why not? My dishonest actions injured me by taking me farther from God. I was growing my pride, not my virtue, putting myself at even greater risk of injury to my soul.

When I re-discovered the good God and by His grace grew in my desire to be like Him, I gained protection from mortal injury to my soul (or jail time!).

A boxer needs good balance so he doesn’t get knocked down when he gets hit unexpectedly. An “upright person” does not easily fall when tempted because he has made a commitment to thinking about right and wrong before he acts. He has practiced not letting his emotions rule his behavior. And he or she asks God for his guidance every day.

When a thought comes into my mind that I want to strangle someone I’m frustrated with (which happens embarrassingly often), I laugh it off by reminding myself, “That’s just a garden-variety temptation.” It helps to keep our balance if we remember that the tempter hates being laughed at!

The more we develop these core strengths, the more we see that God’s got this and we’re along for the joy-ride!

Love always,

15 Responses to “7 Ways to Build Spiritual Core Strength”

  1. J

    Thank you Rose. God Bless you. I truly appreciate you and what you send me. Have a Blessed Ephany. God’s peace and Blessings.

  2. Tom Roberts

    “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.” For me these words rival the Sermon on the Mount or the passage in Exodus where God transforms the wandering self-pitying, squabbling Israelite slaves into a people of purpose by giving them a job, building the tabernacle. That was a spiritual exercise if there ever was one.

    As a teenager I worked as a truck mechanic learning that careful maintenance was the key to a trouble-free long haul. Chuck Yeager, an ace combat pilot, said the reason he was picked to break the sound barrier was because he understood maintenance. Vince Lombardi the legendary Green Bay Packers coach, infused a mixture of Catholic spirituality and hard work preparation in his team to forge the historic “Lombardi years.”

    My model for running the race is General Curtis LeMay who formed the Strategic Air Command. I run the race with focus and purpose. His boys had to jump out of bed, start all 8 engines in their B-52 bombers and clear the runway in under fifteen minutes with one purpose: to protect our country and it’s people.

    For me that translates into “Get your identity straight get your mission straight” a model of action given me by Father Randy Timmerman 20 years ago when I became a Catholic. So I go to mass every weekday morning to get the message, my marching orders for the day. I spend extra time in the chapel, more Vince Lombardi and Curtis LeMay than devotion to Mary. The closest I get to devotion to Mary is contemplation of Teresa of Avila and Mother Teresa who were devoted to Mary; stuff like “Prayer is nothing more than being on close terms with God” (sic). As your list suggests, Rose, the key to breaking the sound barrier is maintenance.

  3. Rose Folsom


    Hello Rose,
    And a blessed Epiphany to you too! Yes, I stopped cheating on my incomes too as I started to grow more deeply in the faith. This is called ongoing conversions if you truly want to live out the Gospel.
    God bless,

  4. Gretchen Elson

    Dearest Rose, You will never know how timely this week’s message was for me. Thank you for getting me back on track and off to a good start for the new year!

  5. Mary

    Thanks, Rose.
    Great stuff here to get and keep me/us on God’s track.
    I hope that you send it out again in a few months when I will no doubt need a reminder!
    Many blessings in 2020!

    • Rose Folsom

      Ha, ha! Well, as a matter of fact I’m considering opening up a membership group for the very purpose of keeping each other inspired and on-track, growing closer to God. More about that soon — but does that concept sound good? I appreciate our thoughts….

  6. Ann

    Thanks! Very useful. As another said, it would make a great talk. Especially if you added in and credited the readers thoughts about Vince Lombardi etc. Yes, a membership grouo would be helpful.

    • Rose Folsom

      Thanks for the feedback! One reason for a membership group is that we all benefit from each others’ wisdom, so I’m on board with that!

  7. Anne Cashdollar

    Aha moment, just what I needed to read today! Holy Spirit! Blessed day to you Rose. Anne$