Oct 6, 2020 filed under Faith, Hope.

Smiling woman looking up

“Become who you are.”St. John Paul the Great

Have you ever considered how the assumptions you make limit your ability to do what God is asking of you?

Janine Evanish, of HeavenAndEarthGiftShop.com, presented at a recent Catholic Marketing Network webinar. Janine told how she wanted to drive to Pennsylvania and ride the Pittsburgh Incline that would take her up the side of Mount Washington for a spectacular view of the city. She put it off, thinking it would be too expensive and so popular she wouldn’t be able to get tickets. When she finally called, she found it cost only five bucks and didn’t have a waiting list.

That got her asking what other assumptions she was making that kept her from pursuing things she was meant to do. She called these assumptions “limiting beliefs.”

Let me start off with sharing some of my own limiting beliefs—those little voices that try to talk us out of being bold in love.

  • I have to do everything myself because if I ask for help, there is no one out there.
  • Other people are more interesting than I am.
  • I don’t have that much to offer, so why bother getting out there just to fail.
  • Other people know more than I do, so why would anyone listen to me.

The list could be longer, but you get the idea.

It’s hard to write down our own doubts, but it’s worth it for two reasons. First, they stop being secrets that we keep even from ourselves. Out in the light, we can examine them. Second, we can see a common thread in all: they are all doubts that specifically limit my trust in God and hold me back in sharing the gifts God has given me.

Calling out the enemy
On the feast of St. Michael, a priest quoted the scripture reading in his homily: “There was a war in heaven.” He added this: “There is a war on earth, too. Do you believe that there is someone who wants you to feel terrible? Do you believe that there is someone who wants to accuse you and cause you to doubt the power of God? Well, there IS.”

Father’s reminder put my limiting beliefs, those doubts and fears that seem to come from nowhere, in context. Yes, demons want to hold us back from being as supernaturally magnificent as God calls us to be. Our job is to act on God’s voice, not the enemy’s.

Write it down
Writing down our list of limiting beliefs, our doubts and fears, helps us to recognize how the accuser and father of lies is whispering to us. Accusations that we are less than tabernacles of the Holy Spirit; that we are less than children of God, created in his image to love and live forever in glory.

So how does God speak to us about limiting beliefs? Through St. Paul, he says, “Eye has not seen, or ear heard, and it has not entered the heart of man what God has prepared for those who love him.”

We usually think that “what God has prepared” will happen in the future in heaven, which is true. But we’re living our eternal life right now! And God is still God wherever we are. Every Mass is a visit to heaven, a union with God Almighty and all the heavenly host. Where do baseless doubts fit into that reality? They don’t.

The fix
It’s easy to think of boundless glory in the abstract. Or maybe in the future, or in rare moments at ocean’s edge or looking into a newborn’s eyes. But God is everywhere, always. Glory is here. He has made his dwelling among us.

We need to find a way to realize and counteract thoughts and beliefs that are holding us back from living God’s glory as much as we can right now. That would take us where God wants us to go with our ministries, businesses, families, careers, and lives.

In her book Present Yourself in Public Speaking: Tell Your Inner Critic to Shut Up and the Real You to Speak Up, which I recommend, Mary Cheyne has a good 3-step exercise to extinguish limiting beliefs:


Reflect on the following question: What are some limiting self-beliefs that you have?


Recall the first time in your life we remember having this belief. Maybe a teacher in fourth grade told us that we didn’t look good smiling in a photograph and we haven’t smiled in a photo since (this actually happened to a dear friend of mine). Writing down this belief can help us realize we don’t have to let someone’s decades-ago comment direct the rest of our lives—maybe they were wrong!


Reframe & Release the belief by writing the opposite belief. For example: “I look lovely when I smile in photos.” (Her smile is as lovely as she is, by the way). Then write down three pieces of evidence that the new belief is correct. For example, “Rose wrote that my smile is lovely.” People often call these positive beliefs “affirmations.”

Evidence that our old belief is not true enables us to release that belief in favor of the affirmation. Cheyne has her students crunch up the paper with the false belief on it and throw it away.

So how was I able to list my limiting beliefs if I’m so good at “moving past” them? Because I haven’t kept up with the habit of looking them in the eye. My enemy constantly prowls around, which means I need to keep on the ball, too.

I realize I need to commit to writing down my limiting beliefs, say, on the first of every month, so I can replace them with written affirmations. I need to make exposing the lies of my enemy and exalting the truths of God a priority. It’s often recommended to put the affirmations where we’ll see them every day: bathroom mirror, computer screen, fridge.

Sound helpful? You have my prayers for replacing those unhelpful beliefs with true ones that are worthy of you!

Love always,

13 Responses to “How to Be as Magnificent as You Are”

  1. Janet

    I am struggling with doubt , depression, racing thoughts and anxiety, I am going to try this method

    • Sharon

      Thank you for your humility. I see as the opposite of your beliefs, a gift from God. I did this exercise. It took me 50 minutes to list, recall first experience, and reframe 13 self limiting doubts. I chuckled that my first is the opposite of your first shared belief – I ask others because I don’t think I have the knowledge, skills, or abilities!!! Blessings upon you and your work, Sharon

      • Rose Folsom

        You know that I greatly admire your gift for asking for help! It’s one reason you accomplish such great things. Thank you for sharing a detailed description of how you did this exercise and how long it took.

  2. Liz Tomaszeski

    What a great message! Write down my limiting beliefs and replace with affirmations! God’s grace is truly sufficient. The power of Christ is perfected in our weakness. I need to get started on my long list of limiting beliefs and move forward! Thanks, Rose

  3. Kathleen Sanzaro

    I am so glad I clicked on your email. A friend of mine has a spiritual director and I’ve given it consideration as well. But, in thoroughly enjoyed the uplifting message I received today. Just what the Lord ordered. I look forward to receiving more of your emails that will help me look differently at myself.

  4. Tom Roberts

    I have been assailed by doubts for as long as I can remember. I would “snatch defeat from the jaws of victory” to pre-empt disappointment I “knew” was coming. Then I could say “See I told you so.” I took the maxim “Persevere and try not to expect too much” too literally. There can be pleasure in persevering, doing the job well, seeing it through. I had a fear of being judged. A great antidote was Richard Feynman’s humorous book “What Do You Care What Other People Think?” But to face squarely the bugaboo of negative outcomes there is Mother Teresa of Calcutta’s “Do It Anyway” because, as she concludes, “You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.”

  5. Karen F. Coombe

    Thank you Rose. I will certainly put this exercise to good use to create & establish more positive feelings and goals.

  6. Ana Maris Fernandez

    I believe I am not feel old, I am 71 I am very active working in Lords mission help to the poors, asking fir help I find have but I not shame to asked fir help. One day a man told me oh you don’t think you are not old, look at you. But I asked to my Lord give me an energy until the last minute of my life I will still doing the things you want.

  7. Diane Upham

    Our Heavenly Father’s Love and Praise are Yours. Thank you so very much for this message. I needed it so. Interesting what Mary Cheyne had happen about her smile.
    I had a similar experience as a teenager, but now that I’m over 70 and have very few wrinkles, it may have been a blessing in disguise and my five grands love my smile as it comes so naturally with them!!