Staying connected is a good thing. But I let myself get connected to the wrong things this week and woke up this morning (Saturday) feeling what my mother-in-law calls “whelmed-over.” How did it happen? How could I have kept it from happening? What do I do now?
It happened because I connected too much with my expectations of what I could accomplish and those expectations were unrealistic. In a word, pride. And I didn’t take enough time off to recharge. Pride again, with a little fear mixed in.
But realizing that something’s derailed is its own victory, because there’s always a fix for it by applying the opposite virtue. So what virtue can I put into play to untangle the wires?
First, I took a nap. Humility enables us to admit that the world can get along without us for half an hour. That untangles about a third of the wires right there. Then, I sat down to write about this disconnected connectedness. The virtue of friendliness, in this case writing a blog post, gets me out of the scramble of my head and makes a clear connection with you, my friends.
Next, I’m going to take a walk in the woods on this beautiful summer day. I can hear the trees rustling outside my window, see the fluffy clouds, and smell the wild onions from my neighbor’s new-mown lawn. Getting out in the sun and the green should bring on some gratitude and remind me that I didn’t create the world and I don’t keep it going.
Then, I’ll read something fun while I eat lunch. And pray for a while. Prayer — connection with God — is the ultimate untangler because hanging out with God restores me to the reality of his loving power and my need for that love….Joy!
P.S. I want to report how my Saturday actually went before posting this. I puttered around the house for a while before getting started with serious “down time.” But I finally did take that walk, do that reading, and connected one-on-one with God. And I watched two old movies in the evening instead of following my impulse to do more work. (The movies were whatever was on the Turner channel: America, America by Elia Kazan and The Shop Around the Corner with Jimmy Stewart. Both good!)