Feb 4, 2017 filed under Living Virtue.

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A friend’s son died last summer. I asked her, a devout atheist, if she would mind if I prayed for them. She said, “I accept your gift of prayer because I know it comes from your heart.” So if she who thinks prayer has no effect is comforted, how much more those of us who believe that prayer is the greatest force in the universe? That prayer is the lever and fulcrum by which Archimedes said he could move the world!?

Yet we neglect to pray for each other.

Consider an idea inspired by my late friend Frank Fletcher. Frank’s limitations prevented him from holding a paying job. So he spent his time riding the bus, striking up quiet conversations with people, gently reminding them of God’s love.

Frank had a habit that will bring a new dimension to your prayer life. Whenever I saw him, he’d ask me on parting, “What are three things I can pray for you today?” The question was, and is, utterly arresting. It was as if the hand of God reached into my soul, looking to touch anything that needed healing. A question so powerful I sometimes had to stifle tears as I answered; for some reason, it always surprised me.

The act of sharing three things to pray for unburdened me of whatever was bothering me that day. Frank was willing to take upon himself my greatest burdens as he waved goodbye and walked toward the bus stop to go home, leaving me feeling light and free. What I had neglected to give entirely to God I was able to give to my friend. Frank was a secret agent for God.

Frank Fletcher, pray for us that we will take time today to ask someone, “What are three things I can pray for you today?”

Love always,



15 Responses to “What Can I Pray for You Today?”

  1. Rosemary

    I have no doubts about the power of prayer, and feel very blessed to know several friends whom I can call and ask for prayers, should I suddenly find myself in a bad way. That being said, I don’t often think to ask someone what is something I can pray for them. Thanks for the great reminder! May Frank rest in peace.

  2. Sal

    Hello Rose! This is an interesting new twist. I always say to friends and family that I pray for them especially when they are troubled, and I will ask them to me for me! However, I never thought of asking Frank’s question! I will need to keep this in mind. Thank you.

  3. Tom Roberts

    Here is a passage from the book Alcoholics Anonymous. It brings to mind Mother Teresa’s essay entitled “Do it Anyway.”

    “If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free. Ask for their health, their prosperity, their happiness, and you will be free. Even when you don’t really want it for them, and your prayers are only words and you don’t mean it, go ahead and do it anyway. Do it every day for two weeks and you will find you have come to mean it and to want it for them, and you will realize that where you used to feel bitterness and resentment and hatred, you now feel compassionate understanding and love.”

    • Rose Folsom

      That is the best advice ever. Please pray that I will take it seriously enough to do it, especially when I don’t feel like it!

  4. Max

    Thank you Rose for sharing. And I will start that with my friends and family. 3 things. Wow.


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